Interesting piece at the Huffington Post...
http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/dr-raj-persaud/lipstick-effect-female-mating-strategy_b_3363955.html?utm_hp_ref=uk
My two cents on the matter...
Evolutionary psychology and sociology 101. Males offer survival value, women offer replication value.
The strongest, fastest, tallest, caveman or warrior alpha males get
more partners as they offer better survival to their mates.
Kinda messed up even more during the industrial age, when
survivability became equated with financial stability, property, and
status. Now, fame and fortune are also factored in.
As it is
understandable to see an athlete, soldier, or policeman to be attractive
due to their physical prowess and command of violence, nowadays it is
also very common to see old ugly millionaires with "sexy" trophy wives.
These are hardwired into societies over time, seen even in
the way people clothe themselves... which is why skirts and dresses
exists even when jeans and t-shirts already offer better features and
protection. Think about it, what does the design of the skirt offer (or
show)?
On the flip side, guns, big cars, and military uniforms are
perceived to be qualities of survivability. Capacity to violence is
also misinterpreted as a survivability trait: "if the guy can hurt me,
he can hurt other bad people too, and will defend me" (c.f. Stockholm
syndrome).
These things even bleed towards gender stereotypes
and reinforce the patriarchy when attempts are made to mitigate/control
it. Whenever the roles are reversed, societies see them as aberrations
(e.g. Cougars, Matronas, Tomboys,repressed women, etc.).
Tsk,tsk. So people should start asking how the everyday things they do
relate to the survivability/replication paradigm. Doing so however, will
tend to lessen their chances to attract a (mainstream) partner. Ironic
that people spout "being yourself" in the realm of dating and romance,
but what really is happening is to become in line with thousands of
years of societal programming and expectations.
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